How to Know If God Loves You (Even When You Don't Feel Like He Does)

God loves me.

Sometimes, it's easy to verbalize that God loves us and not mean it.

Sometimes, we say it and grit our teeth because we know deep down that we don't feel like God loves us. 

Does God really love me?

That's the question that most of us find ourselves asking. One day we feel like God loves us, the next day we don't feel like it.

How can we end this roller coaster ride of emotions? 

1 John 4:7-21

7  Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 
13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.

In the end, what truly matters?


Is there really anything more important than love?

I'll let you answer that.

How do we grow in love?

For starters, "we love because he first loved us." It’s only in the continual revelation of Jesus’ great love for us that we can experience and grow in pure love.

He demonstrated His love for us on the cross.

Wondering if God loves you today? Is there really any way we can guarantee that He loves us? How can we have that certainty? 


There is one solid fact on which you can rest your faith and it's the cross. By looking at the cross you can rest assured that God loves you, regardless of your current feeling. 

NOTHING can erase the fact that He displayed His eternal love for you on the cross.

The cross is God's ultimate expression of His love for you. 

In John 15:13 Jesus said this, 

 "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends."

That is exactly what Jesus did. He willingly laid down His life for you.

Romans 5:6-11

6 "You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 7 Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. 8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
9 Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him!
10 For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! 
11 Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” 

Be fully convinced of His love for you today!

Let the cross be the source and fountainhead from which He showers you with His continuous love.

It is from this perspective of His love for us that we can see others more clearly.

He loved us at our worst, therefore, we can love others at their worst.

Prayer from Ephesians 3:16-21

16 “I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.“